We’ve all experienced the peculiar moments of forgetfulness, like going upstairs and completely forgetting why. Or perhaps you’ve left an acquaintance’s name blank during introductions, or even found your car keys in the refrigerator!

While such temporary memory lapses can be unnerving, they are a normal part of aging. According to Ullmann Lindenberger, a cognitive neuroscientist at the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Berlin, “The decline in episodic memory—knowing what happened, where, and when—is a typical aspect of cognitive aging.” He notes that most adults start to see a decline by age 60, impacting all memory stages from encoding new information to retrieval.

This memory decline is largely due to structural and functional changes in the brain that begin in midlife and accelerate with age. A 2025 study examined over 3,700 cognitively healthy adults and found that age-related memory decline correlates with reduced connectivity between brain regions. This diminishes as the fatty insulating layer around neurons degrades, and as the hippocampus—a critical area for new memory formation—shrinks.

However, Lindenberger emphasizes there’s no need for alarm. “Both learning and episodic memory involve creating and recalling associations, and these brain processes become less reliable as we age.”

It’s also worth noting that most everyday memory issues can stem from a lack of attention. If you are distracted or stressed, your brain may not properly encode where you placed your keys, making retrieval difficult later.

It can be challenging to determine when these typical memory slowdowns signal something more concerning.

Neurologists observe that forgetfulness becomes problematic when it disrupts daily life—like forgetting significant dates or appointments. Dr. Ronald Petersen from the Mayo Clinic notes, “You should be cautious when forgetting essential information or when those around you start noticing these lapses.” Signs to watch for include repeating oneself or consistently forgetting information that once seemed easy to recall.

The act of repetition can be a crucial sign of declining memory function, particularly in early stages of mild cognitive impairment and dementia, like Alzheimer’s. In these cases, changes in the hippocampus and entorhinal cortex hinder the formation of new episodic memories. If someone continuously asks the same questions, it might indicate that their memory of the initial inquiry hasn’t solidified—potentially signaling a red flag.

Cognitive concerns can arise from various factors, including stress, depression, hormonal changes, and medication side effects, leading to temporary lapses in attention and memory. Therefore, it’s vital to assess what might be contributing to cognitive impairment symptoms. Research indicates that older adults who worry about dementia tend to misinterpret everyday forgetfulness as signs of cognitive decline, which can lead to negative health outcomes.

Ultimately, even neurologists grapple with distinguishing “normal” aging from concerning memory loss. For most individuals, it’s crucial to remain calm. As Lindenberger advises, “Be concerned if memory deteriorates quickly and begins to interfere with daily life.”