The developer of ChatGPT indicated that the tragic suicide of a 16-year-old was the result of “misuse” of its platform and “was not caused” by the chatbot itself.
These remarks were made in response to a lawsuit filed by the family of California teenager Adam Lane against OpenAI and its CEO, Sam Altman.
According to the family’s attorney, Lane took his own life in April following extensive interactions and “months of encouragement from ChatGPT.”
The lawsuit claims that the teen conversed with ChatGPT about suicide methods multiple times, with the chatbot advising him on the viability of suggested methods, offering assistance in writing a suicide note to his parents, and that the specific version of the technology in use was “rushed to market despite evident safety concerns.”
In a legal document filed Tuesday in California Superior Court, OpenAI stated that, should any ’cause’ be linked to this tragic incident, Ms. Lane’s “injury or harm was caused or contributed to, in whole or in part, directly or proximately” by his “misuse, abuse, unintended, unanticipated, and/or improper use of ChatGPT.”
OpenAI’s terms of service prohibit users from seeking advice on self-harm and include a liability clause that clarifies “the output will not be relied upon as the only source of truthful or factual information.”
Valued at $500 billion (£380 billion), OpenAI expressed its commitment to “address mental health-related litigation with care, transparency, and respect,” stating it “remains dedicated to enhancing our technology in alignment with our mission, regardless of ongoing litigation.”
“We extend our heartfelt condolences to the Lane family, who are facing an unimaginable loss. Our response to these allegations includes difficult truths about Adam’s mental health and living circumstances.”
“The original complaint included selectively chosen excerpts from his chats that required further context, which we have provided in our response. We opted to limit the confidential evidence publicly cited in this filing, with the chat transcripts themselves sealed and submitted to the court.”
Jay Edelson, the family’s attorney, described OpenAI’s response as “alarming,” accusing the company of “inexplicably trying to shift blame onto others, including arguing that Adam violated its terms of service by utilizing ChatGPT as it was designed to function.”
Earlier this month, OpenAI faced seven additional lawsuits in California related to ChatGPT, including claims that it acted as a “suicide coach.”
A spokesperson for the company remarked, “This situation is profoundly heartbreaking, and we’re reviewing the filings to grasp the details. We train ChatGPT to recognize and respond to signs of mental or emotional distress, de-escalate conversations, and direct individuals to real-world support.”
In August, OpenAI announced it would enhance safeguards for ChatGPT, stating that long conversations might lead to degradation of the model’s safety training.
“For instance, while ChatGPT may effectively direct someone to a suicide hotline at the onset of such discussions, extended messaging over time might yield responses that breach our safety protocols,” the report noted. “This is precisely the type of failure we are actively working to prevent.”
The mummified remains of a boy buried in a copper box between 1617 and 1814
Annamaria Arabiso
An adolescent boy, interred in a copper coffin almost three centuries ago in northern Italy, stands out as the only nearly fully preserved green mummy known to exist.
While other ancient remains have shown partial mummification or green coloration from burial alongside copper or bronze items, a green mummified hand of a newborn clutching a copper coin was discovered in medieval Hungary within pottery vessels.
In contrast, this Italian mummy is largely intact, save for its feet, showcasing an almost entirely green complexion from skin to bone, with the exception of its left leg.
The mummy emerged from the basement of an old villa in Bologna in 1987, where it underwent forensic analysis at the University of Bologna. Experts determined it belonged to a boy aged 12 to 14, and it has been preserved at the university since.
Annamaria Arabiso, a conservation scientist at the University of Rome Tor Vergata, took part in the examination alongside a myriad of specialists including geneticists, anthropologists, radiologists, mathematicians, physicists, and computer scientists. “It was an impressive interdisciplinary effort,” she remarks.
The researchers conducted an extensive series of chemical and physical analyses on the mummy. Radiocarbon dating assigned the boy’s death to between 1617 and 1814, with Arabiso noting that the remains exhibited no apparent signs of trauma or disease.
Copper played a crucial role in preserving both hard and soft tissues, owing to its known antimicrobial characteristics, Arabiso states. However, the copper box reacted with acid from the body, leading to corrosion that created copper byproducts interacting with the chemicals in the bone. Gradually, copper ions replaced calcium in the boy’s skeleton, imparting a green hue and simultaneously enhancing the structural integrity of his bones over time.
The skin developed a rough layer of copper corrosion products referred to as patina, a pale green film typical on bronze items. Arabiso explained that this patina formed as a result of copper’s reaction with water and carbon dioxide during decomposition.
“This fundamentally shifts our understanding of heavy metals, revealing a more intricate relationship regarding their effects on conservation than previously assumed,” she states.
Possibly due to acidic interactions, the bottom of the copper box eventually cracked, leading to liquid spillage that left the remains in a cool, arid environment with limited oxygen, which mitigated decomposition. Arabiso suggests the boy may have become disoriented and lost his footing during this process.
“Engaging with these extraordinary human remains was profoundly emotional for me,” she shares.
Julia Gallo, having seen images of mummies for the first time at the Collège de France in Paris, expressed her awe. “Oh, how beautiful!” she exclaims. “This entire case study is utterly captivating.”
Gallo offered praise for the researchers’ efforts in meticulously investigating the physical and chemical processes leading to the mummification and subsequent color changes. “The evidence robustly supports their conclusions regarding both the preservation of tissues and bones and the variations in coloration.”
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A recent study reveals that the “highly personalized” characteristics of AI bots have prompted teenage boys to seek them out for therapy, companionship, and relationships.
A survey conducted by Male Allies UK among secondary school boys shows increasing concern regarding the emergence of AI therapists and companions, with over a third expressing they might entertain the notion of an AI friend.
The research highlights resources like character.ai. The well-known AI chatbot startup recently decided to impose a permanent ban on teenagers engaging in free-form dialogues with its AI chatbots, which are used by millions for discussions about love, therapy, and various topics.
Lee Chambers, founder and CEO of Male Allies UK, commented:
“Young people utilize it as a pocket assistant, a therapist during tough times, a companion seeking validation, and occasionally even in a romantic context. They feel that ‘this understands me, but my parents don’t.’
The study, involving boys from 37 secondary schools across England, Scotland, and Wales, found that over half (53%) of the teenage respondents perceive the online world as more challenging compared to real life.
According to the Voice of the Boys report: “Even where protective measures are supposed to exist, there is strong evidence that chatbots often misrepresent themselves as licensed therapists or real people, with only a minor disclaimer at the end stating that AI chatbots aren’t real.”
“This can easily be overlooked or forgotten by children who are fully engaged with what they perceive to be credible professionals or genuine romantic interests.”
Some boys reported staying up late to converse with AI bots, with others observing their friends’ personalities drastically shift due to immersion in the AI realm.
“The AI companion tailors its responses to you based on your inputs. It replies immediately, something a real human may not always be able to do. Thus, the AI companion heavily validates your feelings because it aims to maintain its connection,” Chambers noted.
Character.ai’s decision follows a series of controversies regarding the California-based company, including a case involving a 14-year-old boy in Florida who tragically took his life after becoming addicted to an AI-powered chatbot, with claims that it influenced him towards self-harm; a lawsuit is currently pending from the boy’s family against the chatbot.
Users are able to shape the chatbot’s personality to reflect traits ranging from cheerful to depressed, which will be mirrored in its replies. The ban is set to take effect by November 25th.
Character.ai stated that the company has implemented “extraordinary measures” due to the “evolving nature of AI and teenagers,” amid increasing pressure from regulators regarding how unrestricted AI chat can affect youths, despite having robust content moderation in place.
Andy Burrows, CEO of the Molly Rose Foundation, established in the memory of Molly Russell, who tragically ended her life at 14 after struggling on social media, praised this initiative.
“Character.ai should not have made its products accessible to children until they were confirmed to be safe and appropriate. Once again, ongoing pressure from media and politicians has pushed tech companies to act responsibly.”
Men’s Allies UK has voiced concerns about the proliferation of chatbots branding themselves with terms like ‘therapy’ or ‘therapist.’ One of the most popular chatbots on Character.ai, known as Psychologist, received 78 million messages within just a year of its launch.
The organization is also worried about the emergence of AI “girlfriends,” which allow users to customize aspects such as their partners’ appearance and behavior.
“When boys predominantly interact with girls through chatbots that cannot refuse or disengage, they miss out on essential lessons in healthy communication and real-world interactions,” the report stated.
“Given the limited physical opportunities for socialization, AI peers could have a significantly negative influence on boys’ social skills, interpersonal development, and their understanding of personal boundaries.”
Rhynchocephalians – These are members of the sister group to squamates (which include lizards, snakes, and worm lizards) and encompass living Tuataras (Sphenodon punctatus), dating back to the late Jurassic period in the Solnhofen Archipelago. They have been recognized for nearly two centuries, with an increasing number of specimens and species, yet their evolutionary development remains poorly understood. A well-documented marine rhynchocephalian genus, Plerosaurus, existed during the late Jurassic period about 150 million years ago, but clear juvenile specimens have yet to be identified among more than 15 known specimens (with several unlisted).
Plerosaurus is a remarkable long-swimming Rhynchocephalian that lived around 150 million years ago in what is now Germany during the late Jurassic period. Image credit: Roberto Ochoa.
“Genuine Plerosaurus is the most common rhynchocephalian found in the Late Jurassic deposits of Canjuers and Cerin, France, as well as in the Solnhofen Archipelago, Germany,” stated Dr. Victor Beccari from the SNSB-Bayerische Staatsammlung für Paläontologie and the Ludwig-Maximilians-Universität, along with his colleagues.
“This genus is characterized by an elongated triangular skull, a reshaped anterior jaw, an absence of a low anterior flange in the front part of the teeth, and reduced forelimbs.”
“Currently, there are two species within this genus: Pleurosaurus goldfussi and Pleurosaurus ginsburgi.”
“The specific distinctions are based on the count of anterior sacral vertebrae (50 and 57, respectively), the ratio of skull to appendix, and more advanced pelvic development in Pleurosaurus goldfussi.”
“Extensive research has been undertaken; however, in the more than 15 published specimens of Plerosaurus, no clear juvenile specimens have been recorded as of yet.”
Plerosaurus cf. P. ginsburgi: (a) Standard light photographs. (b) Photo under UV light. (c) Interpretation diagram of the specimen. Image credit: Beccari et al., doi: 10.1002/ar.25545.
In a recent study, researchers described a juvenile specimen of Plerosaurus.
The fossils were sourced from the Mörnsheim Formation near Müllheim, close to Solnhofen, Bavaria, Germany.
“This fossil is especially intriguing as it distinctly exhibits characteristics typical of young animals,” commented the paleontologist.
“Its teeth are small, show no signs of wear, its bones remain underdeveloped, and the vertebrae are still forming.”
“This small size, along with other features, makes it the first clearly identified juvenile Plerosaurus. These specimens bridge crucial gaps in understanding the growth and development of these extinct reptiles.”
Findings of juvenile Plerosaurus have significant implications for classifying another genus, Acrosaurus.
“Historically, some paleontologists have posited that Acrosaurus might represent a juvenile form of Plerosaurus, but until now, there was no substantial evidence to support this theory,” the researchers noted.
“These new fossils exhibit numerous similarities to previously identified Acrosaurus, suggesting that it is not a separate genus, but rather a hatchling form of Plerosaurus.”
“For years, I have sought to comprehend how these animals grew and developed, but I had never encountered such a young, well-preserved specimen,” remarked Dr. Andrea Villa from the Paleontologia Miquel Crusafont Institute.
The team’s paper was published in the March 2025 issue of Anatomical Records.
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Victor Beccari et al. 2025. Young Pleurosauride (Rhynchocephalia) from the Titonians of the Mörnsheim Formation, Germany. Anatomical Records 308(3):844-867; doi:10.1002/ar.25545
A woman’s age may influence whether she has only sons or daughters
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Many people might think that the likelihood of women having sons versus daughters is split evenly, akin to a coin toss. However, it appears that some women tend to have children of only one gender.
“Based on my personal observations, I have friends who only have girls or boys,” states Xiwen Wang from Harvard University. “This prompts the question of whether it’s all mere chance or if there are underlying biological factors at play.”
At a broader population level, the ratio of boys to girls at birth is close to 50:50. This is largely due to the fact that male sperm have an approximately equal probability of carrying either X or Y chromosomes that ultimately determine the child’s sex.
Nonetheless, Wang and her colleagues were curious about whether mothers might also have an influence. To investigate, they reviewed data from over 58,000 mothers in the U.S. who were part of two distinct studies focusing on contraception and maternal health. Among these mothers, 61% had two children, 30% had three, 8% had four, and the rest had more than five children.
The researchers examined the gender of female offspring in relation to eight maternal traits: height, weight, race, hair color, blood type, chronotype (time of day they feel most alert), age of first menstruation, and the age at which they had their first child between the ages of 13 and 48.
The findings revealed that women who were over 28 at the time of their first birth had a 43% greater likelihood of having only children of the same sex compared to a 34% chance observed in mothers under 23.
“Our research indicates that the age at which a woman has her first child is correlated with [an increased chance of] her having only sons or daughters,” Wang explains. No other characteristics were found to be associated with the sex of the children.
However, these findings might also stem from behavioral elements. Joshua Wild from Oxford University suggests that older women may be more inclined to plan their family size. As a result, even if they desire children of both sexes, they may choose to stop after having two boys or two girls, whereas younger women might be less concerned with family size and therefore more likely to have children of different sexes.
Further investigations are necessary to explore how behavioral, environmental, and biological factors influence the sex of newborns, Wild notes.
A TikTok video features a young man showcasing a pile of $100 bills. Another appears with designer clothing, while a third man dances, flaunting a heavy gold chain. They brag to their devoted followers about their journey to wealth.
One caption in the video reads, “BM got me a new car,” and another boasts, “$5,000 in just a few hours.”
Unlike traditional influencers focused on travel, brands, or culinary delights, their appeal hinges on criminal activities. All individuals in question are based in Nigeria, and their fraudulent schemes target social media users, predominantly in the US and other Western nations, manipulating romantic interests and victimizing individuals by spreading explicit images.
The intimidation escalates with the distribution of the victims’ images alongside demands for money.
The self-proclaimed con artist identifies as “BM Boys,” where “BM” refers to a chilling term for predatory schemes. Hundreds of young men from West Africa are involved in these operations. Their videos, flaunting lavish lifestyles, have attracted hundreds, if not thousands, of followers on TikTok, garnering admiration and igniting ambitions among other young men eager to join the scams.
“Please tell me the boss [the] one!” a follower commented on a popular BM boys TikTok. “[In] Please give me the name of God. Share your job details.”
Some BM Boys accounts have amassed hundreds of thousands of followers. The Guardian has identified 22 TikTok accounts run by these self-proclaimed BM Boys and interviewed a 24-year-old Nigerian man who has been actively involved for eight years, claiming to have raised nearly $100,000 from victims during that time.
“For me, it’s straightforward,” said one scammer who spoke on the condition of anonymity to discuss illegal activities. “We’re always on our phones—if you’re not working, you won’t eat.”
Finding Victims on Instagram and Flexing on TikTok
One of the primary targets for BM Boys is teenage boys in the United States and beyond. According to a 2023 report by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC), financial sextortion cases involving minors rose sharply, totaling 26,718 from just 10,731 in 2022. Since 2021, at least 46 American teens have died by suicide after being victims of these scams.
In 2024, Meta announced that it had deleted 63,000 Instagram accounts reportedly linked to sextortion schemes from Nigeria. Despite this crackdown, Instagram remains a platform where perpetrators can identify and engage potential targets, as noted by human trafficking experts. Meanwhile, TikTok serves as a showcase for BM Boys, allowing them to flaunt their success and recruit newcomers.
“Others are eager to join these scams because they see the profits. They flaunt money, luxurious clubs, and travels,” says Paul Rafil, an expert in online exploitation. “They exploit these platforms and their influencer status to generate income.”
These individuals lead enviable lifestyles, often employing experienced figures known as “bosses” who manage new scammers termed “talks.” Rafil explains that these bosses take a cut of the profits.
“These ‘talks’ are tasked with creating fake social media profiles, engaging potential victims online,” Rafil elaborated. “But when it comes to transferring money through cash apps, Bitcoin wallets, and other financial methods, the bosses take the reins.”
A TikTok spokesperson stated, “We designed TikTok for creativity and do not tolerate any content or behavior that promotes sextortion, as it is harmful to teens.”
Tips and Tricks for Blackmailing
A critical aspect of their scheme involves building trust by creating a façade that their interactions are with attractive women in the same locale as their targets. Many BM Boys post “BM Updates” on TikTok, providing tips and education to followers on improving their sextortion techniques.
“Millions aspire to get into this. If you don’t learn it, you won’t succeed,” remarked one scammer who regularly shares BM updates and has a growing follower base.
BM updates include copying scripts, sharing pictures of girls to impersonate, tutorials on hacking social media accounts, and advice on utilizing Virtual Private Networks (VPNs) to avoid detection. They also provide scripts for creating menacing audio messages to coerce victims into compliance and guidance on where to find potential targets, including dating sites.
To connect with victims, offenders often use tactics termed “bombing,” where they infiltrate various online communities, including those related to schools, sports teams, and popular culture. They frequently discuss country music stars, Hollywood celebrities, or fans of popular shows, sharing insights on how to target such demographics.
“They do this for two reasons: to scam those who accept their follow requests and to make their fake accounts seem more legitimate when mutual friends exist,” Rafil noted. “Often they’ll say, ‘Oh, I discovered you through mutual suggestions on Instagram.’
To bolster their credibility as Americans, BM Boys avidly consume American news, sports, and pop culture content, according to a scary mailer.
Through thousands of attempts, these scripts and strategies have evolved into high-pressure systems designed to lure victims into compromising situations. They usually initiate image exchanges by sending stolen nude photos from sites where sex workers create content, Rafil mentioned.
Perpetrators then demand between $500 and $3,000, threatening to share explicit images with the victim’s social media connections. They employ fear tactics by editing victims’ photos into fake newspaper headlines or broadcast news images.
“Sometimes I call them to let them know who they’re dealing with. When the victim sees his photos on TV or in the news, they’ll think, ‘Oh, I can’t block this person,’” he claimed. “They’ll see it featured in trashy news broadcasts,” he mentioned.
No Remorse, Only Money
It’s no accident that threatening individuals flaunt their exploits on TikTok. One con artist expressed skepticism about reports indicating that numerous US teens have died by suicide following sextortion targeting.
“I don’t feel guilty; that’s not the sole reason for their suicides. I’m not sure if BM is responsible for these tragedies,” said the scammer. “If someone tells me they’re considering suicide, I assume they’re joking.”
He recounted how he was orphaned as a child when his mother died during childbirth, leading him to view sexual exploitation as merely a job despite its emotional toll.
“When I take a photo, I feel nothing for the victim. I must survive as a living being,” he remarked.
This lack of remorse shown by BM Boys has caused immense trauma for families, such as John Demay’s. In 2022, her son Jordan took his life at 17 after being targeted by three Nigerian men on Instagram who impersonated teenage girls. Two of them, Samuel Ogosi and his younger brother Samson Ogosi, have since been extradited to the US and are now serving a 17-year, six-month prison sentence.
During sentencing, the judge described the brothers as exhibiting “a blatant disregard for life,” noting that they continued their sextortion scheme even after learning of Jordan’s suicide.
“They continued their activities using the same script and attitude, fully aware that Jordan had ended his life as a consequence of their actions,” Demay stated.
Experts emphasize that the balance between privacy and safety on social media for children must differ from that of adults, urging platforms to strengthen protections for minors.
“You’re working with youth who may act impulsively. They might not respond adequately to warnings. Given their vulnerability, proactive measures are crucial,” they recommend.
Meta has implemented various changes recently to safeguard younger users. In a statement, the company mentions alerting teens when they interact with users from different countries, and blurring explicit images sent from minor accounts.
A Meta spokesperson commented, “Sextortion is a heinous crime. We have the ability to dismantle networks of fraudsters, share information with other companies, and support law enforcement in prosecuting these offenders.”
Since September, Instagram has established default privacy settings for accounts, making it harder for unauthorized individuals to view follower lists. However, when a teen accepts a friendship request, their follower list remains accessible. Enhancing privacy further, such as restricting follower lists from even approved followers, could better protect teens from being targeted by sextortionists, Rafil pointed out. “It shouldn’t be as easy as flipping through a directory to find a teenage boy or girl.”
Demay expressed that social media companies “have the ability to implement necessary safeguards within their platforms but have chosen not to do so.”
Researchers have discovered that certain chemical imbalances in the brain may help explain the higher risk of depression in teenage girls compared to boys.
They specifically highlighted the role of a chemical called tryptophan, an essential amino acid found in foods like turkey, chicken, eggs, milk, nuts, and seeds. Tryptophan is used by the body to produce serotonin, a brain chemical that influences mood, sleep, and happiness.
When tryptophan is broken down in the brain, it can lead to the production of beneficial chemicals like kynurenic acid, as well as harmful chemicals.
Tryptophan (the molecular structure shown here) is one of the 20 standard amino acids – Photo credit: Getty
A study by scientists from King’s College London analyzed blood and depression symptoms in Brazilian teenagers aged 14-16, linking these chemicals with depression in both genders.
According to Professor Valeria Mondeli, senior author and Kings’ clinical professor of psychoimmune, adolescence is a time of significant changes with little understanding of the biological factors contributing to depression differences between teenage boys and girls.
The researchers found that girls at high risk of depression had lower levels of brain health kynurenic acid compared to low-risk individuals, indicating potential harm from tryptophan breakdown.
Girls and women are twice as likely to experience depression compared to men, and the researchers suggested this may be linked to the unbalanced kynurenine pathway’s effects on the brain.
Dr. Nagum Nickhesrat, the first author of the study, expressed hope that the findings could lead to better support for teenagers with depression, possibly through drugs targeting the kynurenine pathway.
Understanding the kynurenine pathway’s role in depression development during teenage years could provide insight into better management strategies for depression.
Snowboard boots on the kitchen table. A handle in the bedroom. And clothes are everywhere, and there's no system for determining which ones are clean.
These are just some of the sights that will tell you you're in the boys' room. It's a bedroom with little form or function, inhabited by a grown man who doesn't give much thought to either concept. The interior is usually made up of random trinkets, like your favorite old skateboard on the wall or your childhood action figures on the windowsill. Sneakers and trash are often so dense that it’s hard to see the floor. The thing about furniture is that there might be some furniture. Otherwise, the resident sleeps on a bare mattress placed directly on the floor with one pillow and an uncovered comforter.
To an outsider, it may seem immature and even unkind. Now, comedian Rachel Coster is exploring this phenomenon in her TikTok/Instagram series. boy room.
In every episode, a man in his 20s or 30s living in New York City offers his bedroom for anthropological research. Coster walks around the room and asks the boys questions about the decorations.
“What's that over there?” she asked Luke, 24, pointing to a dirty container next to a step stool. “It’s a bottle of bleach,” he answered.
“What's with the hat?” she asked Jerome, 32, pointing to the baseball cap under the bed. “That’s a cat’s hat,” he explains.
Some videos go in an even more surreal direction. One video features a windowless room with residents' nicknames painted on the walls, like something out of a horror movie. Another boy is wearing a nightcap and has an empty condom box taped to the wall.
Rachel Coster investigates a phenomenon familiar to many who have dated in New York. Photo: Provided by the gymnasium
Koster then offers some very practical tips for improving your space. “My vision for Blake’s room is to install a trash can for him,” she suggests. “Place all clothing on the floor on readily available racks.”
The boys in question are mainly Although he may be a little confused when he receives attention, he is sincere and likable. One commenter on Instagram said: “Blake seems like a really level-headed person. I think we have a lot in common.”
The idea for the boy room came from a friend of Koster’s who said her room “scared every girl I’ve ever taken.” She said she could help fix it within a few hours. In just her five weeks since the show began, Koster’s most-watched video has been her 2.7 million views on TikTok, and her Boy Room followers have surpassed her 121,000.
Perhaps it’s because she finds such a rich theme. Socializing, especially dating, means being exposed to a wealth of unknown homes and lifestyles. Family life of young people special scrutiny. For example, on TikTok, users canThree typical boy apartments in New York City” (the eldest of the siblings, the “dad has money” guy, and the guy with the fireplace that will hurt your feelings).Natural things in my boyfriend’s apartment” (e.g. a fire hydrant that has been recalled for some reason).
Why on earth is the men’s room the way it is? Coster theorizes that while girls are raised with the expectation that they will one day take care of the house and “look out for each other” when it comes to cleanliness, “that’s not the case when boys go to each other’s rooms.” I’m wearing it. ‘Hey, hey, why don’t you have more than one pillow?’ And, of course, there’s the relentless advertising, she says, ‘Men are sold on ‘you have to be stronger.’ You need focus. You have to be hardworking.’For girls, “You have to be beautiful, you have to be clean, and your house has to be clean.”
My lover, who was probably trying to send a message, warned me about the boy room first. She’s only just turned 39 and I’m just a boy, with a room where I’ve been told in no uncertain terms that I’m eligible to be on the show. Since I live on the other side of the country, Ms. Koster kindly agreed to do an evaluation via video chat.
Her first question was how to get it across the bedroom since there is a TV stand at the foot of the bed and together they take up the length of the room. I explained that I would have to climb over the bed to get to the closet. “It’s amazing,” she said. “And all your clothes are shoved in storage shelves,” she said of the boxes in the closet where I stuff my clothes (I don’t have a dresser, but I do have storage shelves, so there is no need).
Some of the posters in my room have not yet fallen. Photo: The Guardian
She also took note of my pile of keepsakes (which used to be filled with keepsake bags). There I keep things I can’t bear to throw away, like postcards, the magic wand from my Halloween costume from seven years ago, and a brochure from a hang gliding museum in Texas I don’t remember visiting. Her grandfather’s electric chess set is also on the mountain. “Yeah, that’s where he wants to be,” Koster said. “How long has it been sitting there?”
“Maybe it’s because I moved here a year and a half ago?”
“So how often do you look at them and say, ‘Wow, thank God I have this ‘Hoppy Easter’ card?”
Coster “loves tossing” things he doesn’t normally use. “I’d rather have noise-cancelling headphones than a million letters from her parents,” she said, adding: “Maybe if my parents had died, I might have felt differently.”
She also suggested putting memorabilia in a chest, or at least organizing the pile into smaller piles. “You’ll find that there’s a better shape to it than just putting it in a lump in the corner of the room.” Her other key advice was to put back posters that had fallen off the wall, but the theme I thought it might be a good idea to change it a little. I suffer from a condition that could be diagnosed as extreme Anglophilia, and the poster included her two maps of Britain, a vintage tube ad, and an overhead view of London. Masu. She said, “I’m going to introduce France or some other white European country to get you excited.”
After all, the boy room is for boys. Photo: Provided by the gymnasium
Actually, I already have a discarded poster from France, but the simplicity of her other suggestions made me want to take action. I did it the next weekend, reupholstered the posters, and got rid of some of my worst memorabilia. Two monocles with broken glasses.
Koster understands that getting rid of things can be difficult. “I don’t think sentimentality and peace of mind really go together, because if you’re always thinking about the past and always trying to protect things, it’s really hard to stay in the present.”, it is also rewarding to correct your posture. “When I wake up in a clean room, I feel completely in heaven.”
Boy Room has plenty of jokes, but what sets it apart from your standard internet troll is its underlying warmth. Yes, we’re laughing in the boys’ room, but Koster works with a small team that includes a director, cinematographer, and editor. sexy damion, very much on the boy’s side. she told one of the boys’ room customers. “This has nothing to do with your personality. You’re nice. You just don’t know what you’re doing with your space.”
She, and by extension we, simply want what’s best for these men, starting with their ability to move from one side of the room to the other without tripping. “My true wish is that if possible, everyone should love themselves enough to value their own space,” she said.
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